I am reading a book a friend gave me called "Grown-Up Girlfriends" by Smalley & Oliver. It encourages you to find out what pushes your buttons and what reaction you have when your buttons are pushed. Do you blame someone, are you sarcastic, etc. What I thought was really good was that she gave an example of a time when she had her feelings hurt. When her friend asked how she was, she said, "fine" which really means: feelings inside not expressed! I've heard that we should allow ourselves to be open, honest and vulnerable, but what does that mean? The author explained it this way - what she really should have said to her friend was, "My feelings are hurt, but this is an issue I'm going to work through with God's help. You are not responsible for how I feel." Wow! I hope I can have the courage to say that the next time someone pushes one of my buttons (rejection, devalued, etc.)!